The National Sudden Infant Death Resource Center (NSIDRC)

Bereavement Resources for Parents, Families and Friends:
A Selected Annotated Bibliography

Sample J, Besos y abrazos al aire [Flying Hugs and Kisses],
Centennial, CO: Lifevest Publishing. 2006. 32p.

Flying Hugs and Kisses is a great Spanish- language resource for families with children who have lost a baby to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). The book is about five children who creatively take on roles of support toward each other while showing their individual feelings about the death of their baby brother to SIDS.

Available from:
Authors to Believe In
Lifevest Publishing
4901 East Dry Creek Road #170
Centennial, CO 80122.
(877) 843-1007 (Toll-free)
atbi@lifevestpublishing.com (E-mail)
http://authorstobelievein.com/children.htm .

Sample J.
Flying Hugs and Kisses.
Centennial, CO: Lifevest Publishing. 2006. 32p.

Flying Hugs and Kisses is a great resource for families with children who have lost a baby to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). The book is about five children who creatively take on roles of support toward each other while showing their individual feelings about the death of their baby brother to SIDS.

Available from:
Lifevest Publishing
4901 East Dry Creek Road, #170
Centennial, CO 80122.
(877) 843-1007
atbi@lifevestpublishing.com (E-mail)
http://www.lifevestpublishing.com

DuBois EM.
I never held you: A book about miscarriage, healing and recovery.
Appleton, WI: DLSIJ Press. 2006. 137p.

In this book, author Ellen DuBois tells of her painful experiences after miscarriage and shares tools that helped get her through the toughest of times-from prayer to relaxation techniques. I Never Held You validates a woman's grief and gently suggests ways to get through the grief process.

Available from:
DLSIJ Press
1717 E. Calumet Street
Appleton, WI 54915.
5web8@dlsijpress.com (E-mail)
http://dlsipress.com

Kane D.
Missing Hannah: Based on a true story of Sudden Infant Death.
Bloomington, IN: AuthorHouse. 2006. 27p.

This simple picture book is written to help children understand the feelings and thoughts of a little girl who lost her sister. The message conveyed in the book will parents help parents tell the story of SIDS to children in a simple way.

Available from:
AuthorHouse
1663 Liberty Dr, Ste 200
Bloomington, IN 47403
(888) 519-5121
http://www.authorhouse.com

Turner M.
Someone very important has just died: Immediate help for people caring for children of all ages at the time of a close bereavement.
Philadelphia, PA: Jessica Kingsley Publishers. 2005. 40p.

Someone very important has just died is a practical book written for those caring for children and teenagers suffering a close bereavement, suitable for anyone regardless of their background and beliefs. This much needed resource is intended for use immediately or soon after the death has occurred, provides a detailed guidance on what adults might say and do to help children. It overviews the sensitive issues of what to tell children, how far to include them in events immediately after the death, how to tend to their physical and emotional needs. Includes information on where to go to obtain longer-term bereavement support.

Available from:
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
400 Market St., Ste 400
Philadelphia, PA 19106
(215) 922-1161
(215) 922-1474 (Fax)
orders@jkp.com (E-mail)
http://www.jkp.com

California Department of Health Services, Maternal and Child Health Bureau
SIDS and foster parents.
Rancho Cordova, CA: California SIDS program.

A single page handout which briefly describes the emotions of the SIDS baby's foster parents, what they can expect to occur after the baby dies and a description of services available to the foster parents from California SIDS program.

Available from:
California SIDS Program
11344 Coloma Road, Suite 560
Gold River, CA 95670-6304
916) 851-7437
(800) 369-7437 (Toll-free in California)
(916) 851-5937 (Fax)
info@californiasids.com (E-mail)
http://www.californiasids.com

California Department of Health Services, Maternal and Child Health Bureau
SIDS y los padres temporales [SIDS and foster parents].
Rancho Cordova, CA: California SIDS Program

A single page handout in Spanish which briefly describes the emotions of the SIDS baby's foster parents, what they can expect to occur after the baby dies and a description of services available to the foster parents.

Cleckley M.
For the newly bereaved.
Park Forest, IL: Bereaved parents of the USA

This pamphlet, aimed at newly bereaved offers suggestions dealing with grief in the beginning, how to survive the devastation and how long the feeling will last, dealing with shock, denial, anger, guilt and common complaints like loss of ability to concentrate, excessive fatigue, inability to sleep or sleeping too much, loss of appetite, physical complaints such as stomach disorders, dealing with future. Includes mission statement and contact information of Bereaved parents of USA and list of brochures/pamphlets available.

Available from:
Bereaved Parents of the USA
PO Box 95
Park Forest, IL 60466
(630) 971-3490
(708) 748-9184 (Fax)
PatLMoser@aol.com (E-mail)
http://www.bereavedparentsusa.org

Wolfelt AD.
A child’s view of grief: A guide for parents, teachers, and counselors.
Fort Collins, CO: Companion Press. 2004. 52p.

In this informative, easy-to-read booklet, Dr. Wolfelt explains how children and adolescents grieve after someone loved dies and offers helping guidelines for care giving adults. An excellent, concise resource for parents of grieving kids.

Available from:
Companion Press
The Center for Loss and Life Transition
3735 Broken Bow Road
Fort Collins, CO 80526
(970) 226-6050
(800) 922-6051 (Fax)
wolfelt@centerforloss.com (E-mail)
http://www.centerforloss.com

Sims DD.
Getting through the holidays when you've lost a loved one.
St. Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press, 2004. 4p.

This booklet discusses how the holidays can be a painful time after losing a loved one, provides tips that can make it a time to cherish fond memories and traditions. Author guides through the holidays and beyond so that focus will be on loved one's life not their death. He provides ideas that may help begin the journey like being patient and realistic, listening to heart and acknowledging limits, adapting cherished traditions, allowing tears to come, but looking for joy amidst the pain, focusing on the spiritual dimension of the holidays. Sources of additional help are identified like books, magazine on bereavement.

Available from:
Abbey Press
One Caring Place
1 Hill Drive
St. Meinrad, IN 47577
(800) 325-2511
(800) 320-8670 (Fax)
ocp@abbeypress.com (E-mail)
http://www.abbeypress.com

Sims DD.
Sobreviviendo a los dias festivos cuando has perdido a un ser amando [Getting through the holidays when you've lost a loved one].
St. Meinrad, IN: Abbey Press, 2004. 4p.

Available from:
Abbey Press
One Caring Place
1 Hill Drive
St. Meinrad, IN 47577
(800) 325-2511
(800) 320-8670 (Fax)
ocp@abbeypress.com (E-mail)
http://www.abbeypress.com

O'Neill K.
Gaby D. a mother's journey through grief.
Lincoln, NE: IUniverse Inc., 2004. 71p.

Gaby D. is a journal chronicling a mother's journey through grief in the years following the sudden death of her young daughter Gabrielle.

Available from:
IUniverse, Inc.
2021 Pine Lake Road, Ste 100
Lincoln, NE 68512
(877) 288-4737
(402) 323-7800
(402) 323-7824 (Fax)
book.orders@iuniverse.com (E-mail)
http://www.iuniverse.com

Kuebelbeck A.
Waiting for Gabriel: A story of cherishing a baby's brief life.
Chicago, IL: Loyola Press, 2004. 174p.

Waiting for Gabriel is a story about living well and dying well, about cherishing the moments we have with our children both born and unborn. Book is applicable to those who have lost a baby- whether it be from miscarriage, stillbirth, or fatal illness. Kuebelbeck's story reaches out to grieving parents and gives them a much-needed voice for their pain, support for their loss, and example of how to honor a child in life and in death. In this heartbreaking story the author shares about the brief life of her son, Gabriel born with a rare heart defect. Kuebelbeck and her husband learned of the problem during the second trimester of her pregnancy, when they were told that he would only live for a few days after birth, she recounts that he actually lived only a few hours and explains that his life was invested with meaning for his family and the hospital staff.. Kuebelback details profound sense of loss her family feels but also how they try to honor Gabriel's memory, which in turn becomes therapeutic ways to work through grief.

Available from:
Loyola Press
3441 North Ashland Avenue
Chicago, IL 60657
(800) 621-1008
(773) 281-0555 (Fax)
customerservice@loyolapress.com (E-mail)
http://www.loyolapress.com

Church L.
Hope is like the sun: Finding hope and healing after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.
Hampton, VA: HopeXchange Publishing, 2004, 174p.

This book offers support to women and their families coping with pregnancy loss. The author and four of her friends narrate their own experience with miscarriage and offer advice and supportive information to bereaved parents and those who care for them. Through personal narratives, author illustrates the many facets of the normal grieving process that accompany pregnancy loss. Each chapter presents user-friendly suggestions for coping with a wide range of emotional responses, assuring women that reactions are normal and not crazy. Includes information on self-care, importance of maintaining physical health while healing emotionally, suggestions to overcome social and spiritual pain of grief, ways to commemorate the loss of a baby, handling holidays and special events, dealing with family members and other siblings, handling spouses grief, tips to aid friends and loved ones of grieving parents, decision to have another baby. Appendices include resources such as books, websites, national organizations; support groups contact information, glossary and index. Each chapter includes workbook type sections.

Available from:
HopeXchange Publishing
26 Towne Centre Way # 731
Hampton, VA 23666-1999
(757) 826-2162
http://www.hopexchange.com

Nelson T.
A guide for fathers: When a baby dies.
St. Paul, MN: A Place to Remember. 2004. 66 p.

This helpful pocket book written to help fathers in the early hours and days after a baby dies whether it be a miscarriage, stillbirth or early infant death, many of the issues are the same. Provides men with timely suggestions as they make their way through the grief process following the death of their baby. Book covers issues like decisions to be made in the initial hours after hearing the news about death of the baby, suggestions to deal with the task of telling about baby’s death to other siblings, making funeral arrangements, ideas to cope with the thought of going home without the baby, lists some things to anticipate and ideas how to make it a little easier when going back to work, dealing with guilt/blame, anger, going to a support group, communicating with your partner in the months ahead. The back of the book includes author’s original, A Fathers Story. Also appended is a resource list.

Available from:
A Place to Remember
deRuyter-Nelson Publications, Inc.
1885 University Avenue, Suite 110
Saint Paul, MN 55104
(612) 645-7045
(800) 631-0973; (612) 645-4780
aptr@aplacetoremember.com (E-mail)
http://www.aplacetoremember.com/

Stillwell EE, Behme TJ, Pierce GFA, ed(s).
The death of a child: Reflections for grieving parents.
Chicago, IL: ACTA Publications. 2004. 160 p.

This book is filled with stories of people who have lost a child and how they dealt with the reality of that event. This collection of life-giving lessons touches on a wide range of emotions and situations that parents may encounter after the death of their child.

Available from:
ACTA Publications
4848 N. Clark St.
Chicago, IL 60640-4711
(800) 397-2282 (Toll-free)
(703) 271-1030
(800) 397-0079 (Fax)
actapublications@aol.com (E-mail)
http://www.actapublications.com/

Johnson J, Johnson SM, Sieff J.
Children die, too: A book for parents who have experienced the death of a child.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2004. 10 p.

This booklet, intended for parents whose child has died, describes the feelings that bereaved parents and others close to them are likely to experience after such a death. The most common feelings experienced by bereaved parents are shock, anger, sadness, depression, and guilt. The booklet also discusses the effects of a child’s death on the parent’s marital relationship, surviving siblings, grandparents, friends, stepparents, and single parents. A list of reading materials on grief for parents and children is included. The booklet is available in Spanish.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org/

Johnson J, Johnson SM, Bernardino AE trans.
Los Ninos Tambien Mueren: Para Padres que Estan Sufriendo la muerte de un hijo [Children de: too: A book for parents who have experienced the death of a child].
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2004. 24 p.

This Spanish-language booklet, intended for parents whose child has died, describes the feelings that bereaved parents and others close to them are likely to experience after such a death. The most common feelings experienced by bereaved parents are shock, anger, sadness, depression, and guilt. The booklet also discusses the effects of a child’s death on the parents’ marital relationship, surviving siblings, grandparents, friends, stepparents, and single parents. A list of reading materials on grief for parents and children is included.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Principles of the Compassionate Friends.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2004. 2 p.

This pamphlet explains the principles of The Compassionate Friends, a self-help organization for bereaved parents and siblings. The primary purpose of the organization is to assist parents and siblings in the positive resolution of the grief experienced upon the death of a child, and to support their efforts to achieve physical and emotional health. The pamphlet also provides information on the organization’s services, how it is funded, and the methods it uses to help parents cope with their grief.

Available from:
The Compassionate Friends
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
(877) 969-0010
(630) 990-0246 (Fax)
nationaloffice@compassionatefriends.org (E-mail)
http://www.compassionatefriends.org/

Johnson J, Johnson M, Bock R, Dannen C, Hasslinger ML, et al.
Miscarriage: A book for parents.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2004. 24 p.

This book provides support for parents who have experienced the death of a baby through miscarriage. The book discusses the feelings that commonly follow a miscarriage, such as sadness, anger, and guilt; encourages parents to ask their health care providers questions and to seek out support after the initial withdrawal period is over; provides suggestions to fathers for coping with their grief and that of their spouse; lists ways in which parents can memorialize their baby; gives suggestions for coping if one is a single mother; discusses ways in which parents can help older children cope with the death; provides parents with suggestions for relating to others after the miscarriage; tells mothers to address their fears of future pregnancies rather than let the fears overwhelm them; lists things that may cause parents to grieve so that they may cope with them better; reminds parents that connecting with the community of people who have had a similar experience will help them through their grief; and asks parents to use the miscarriage to become more sensitive to others in grief, to recognize new values and feelings about children and life, and to realize that they have endured grief and despair and survived it with dignity and self-respect. The book includes a glossary of special terms, a page to write down questions, concerns and answers, letter by Martha Eise from her book Dear Parents, space to make dedication or write down thoughts about the baby, a list of recommended readings.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Compassionate Friends, Inc.
When a child dies... The Compassionate Friends can help.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2004. 2 p.

This pamphlet describes the purposes and services of The Compassionate Friends, a self-help organization for bereaved parents and siblings. The purposes of the organization are to assist parents and siblings in the positive resolution of the grief experienced upon the death of a child, and to support their efforts to achieve physical and emotional health. The pamphlet describes purpose, lists membership information, their activities, activities of local chapters, chapter meeting, the origin and growth of the organization, explains how the organization is funded, and discusses the methods the organization uses to help parents cope with their grief.

Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Understanding grief...When a child dies.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2004. 2 p.

This pamphlet is intended to help bereaved parents through the grief process. The pamphlet discusses the emotional and physical reactions that parents may experience following the death of a child; the needs of other surviving children during this time; how the death may make parents question their beliefs; and ways in which parents can deal with their grief positively. A positive approach to grief resolution includes eating a well-balanced diet and getting moderate exercise, avoiding the use of drugs or alcohol to cope, taking time to decide what to do with the child’s belongings, postponing major decisions, considering the feelings of the entire family when planning how to spend holidays or the birthday/death anniversary of the child who died, and seeking support from other bereaved parents.

Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Comprender la congoja…cuando su hijo muere.[Understanding grief...When a child dies].
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2004. 2 p.

Johnson J, Johnson SM, Morgan T Rev. et al.
Fathers grieve, too: For fathers who have experienced the death of a child.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2004. 4 p.

This brochure focuses on the emotional reactions of fathers who have experienced the death of a child, giving special attention to the effect of the loss on the bereaved father’s marriage and job. The brochure also discusses men’s grief and its relation to anger, talking, working, spouse relationship and crying.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Hoppenbrouwers T, Hodgman J.
SIDS
Calabasas, CA: Monte Nido Press. 2004. 122 p.

The purpose of the book is to provide practical information to parents who have lost a baby to SIDS and to people who come in contact with those parents. Part 1 overviews what is SIDS, what it looks like, events right after it, how diagnosis is made, information about funerals, health department visiting program and resources available to the parents. Part 2 extensively deals with cultural and individual diversity in grief applicable to SIDS families. Focuses attention to the issues of various family members how SIDS affects them, recommends activities that aid in healing. Lists helpful suggestions from parents who lost a child. Part 3 covers medical aspects of SIDS like history of SIDS diagnosis from the past to the current state of medical knowledge, covers previously rejected theories as well as current research and theories. Part 4 briefly describes proposed, discarded, controversial, current and under investigation theories. Includes glossaries, six appendices that comprise useful resources.

Available from:
Women's and and Children's Hospital
Newborn Division Rm L919
Attention Dr. Toke Hoppenbrouwers
1240 Mission Rd, Los Angeles, 90033
http://www.sandiegosids.org

First Candle/SIDS Alliance
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: Surviving the death of a baby.
Baltimore, MD: First Candle/ SIDS Alliance. 2003. 12 p.

This brochure serves as an aid to parents who have lost a baby to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). It covers topics like grieving process parents undergo, coping with birthdays, anniversaries and holidays, trying for another baby, children’s reactions to death, how grandparents undergo double grief, how childcare providers react to the grief. Furnishes contact information to stop unsolicited reminders of the baby’s death. Presents suggestions to friends and relatives in a do’s and don’ts format to assist SIDS parent’s grief. Includes two poems entitled “Last day” and “The journey of living on”.

Available from:
National SIDS/ ID Program Support Center
1314 Bedford Avenue, Suite 210
Baltimore, MD 21208
(410) 415-6628
(800) 221-7437 (Toll-free)
(410) 653-8709 (Fax)
kathleen.graham@firstcandle.org (E-mail)
http://www.firstcandle.org

Bereaved Parents of the USA
For bereaved grandparents.
Park Forest, IL: Bereaved Parents of the USA. 2003. 3 p.

This brochure discusses two aspects of grief that a bereaved grandparent undergoes working through their own grief and being helpful to their bereaved child. It provides various tips in order to undergo these two aspects. It provides information on the Bereaved Parents of the USA along with the brochures available.

Available from:
Bereaved Parents of the USA
PO Box 95
Park Forest, IL 60466
(630) 971-3490
(708) 748-9184 (Fax)
http://www.bereavedparentsusa.org

Noel B.
I wasn't ready to say goodbye: A companion workbook for surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one.
Fredonia, WI: Champion Press, 2003.144p.

Based on the authors book "I wasn't ready to say goodbye: Surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one" this workbook offers step-by-step support and encouragement through the grief journey. The workbook is full of insightful questions and exercises to help understand what one is going through and appreciate and accept oneself. It covers getting through the first few weeks; to help children cope; special challenges that sudden and unexpected widowhood can bring; support groups and resources to be found locally, regionally, and nationally; getting past grief blocks. Includes bibliography.

Available from:
Champion Press Ltd.
4308 Blueberry Road
Fredonia, WI 53021
(877) 250-3354
(262) 692-3897
(262) 692-3342 (Fax)
info@championpress.com (E-mail)
http://www.championpress.com

Limbo RK, Wheeler SR
When a baby dies: A handbook for healing and helping.
La Crosse, WI: Bereavement Services, 2003, 165p.

When a Baby Dies: A Handbook for Helping is written to help families heal and to provide support to healthcare professionals. The book covers individual stories of pregnancy and perinatal loss. There are specific chapters on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, newborn death, and loss in a multiple gestation pregnancy. Working from the fact that grief is normal the book also addresses the family issues that occur as each person grieves differently. Additional chapters address the roles of individual healthcare professionals and include checklists which are helpful in caring for bereaved families. Includes bibliography.

Available from:
Bereavement Services/ Gunderson Lutheran Medical Foundation
1910 South Avenue
La Crosse, WI 54601
(800) 362-9567
(608) 775-4747
(608) 775-5137 (Fax)
bservs@gundluth.org (E-mail)
http://www.bereavementprograms.com

National Black Child Development Institute, Inc., National Institute of Child Health and Human Development
An activity book for African American families: Helping children cope with crisis.
Bethesda, MD: National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD). 2003. 92 p.

This activity book was developed in collaboration with African American communities to provide materials for parents to help their children cope with extraordinary crises, such as a terrorist attacks, as well as everyday hardships such as poverty and crime.

Available from:
National Institute of Child Health and Human Development (NICHD)
PO Box 3006
Rockville, MD 20847
(800) 370-2943
(301) 496-7101 (Fax)
NICHDInformationResourceCenter@mail.nih.gov (E-mail)
http://www.nichd.nih.gov/publications (Web site)

Faldet R, Fitton K, ed.
Cuando el embarazo termina en perdida: Nuestras Historias. [Our stories of miscarriage: Healing with words]
Minneapolis, MN: Fairview Press. 2003. 203 p.

Fifty contributors including four men share vivid, real-life accounts of how miscarriage has affected their lives. By articulating often unspoken feelings and experiences the authors of these short stories, journal entries, and poems provide emotional support and healing comfort for others who like them have been touched by miscarriage.

Available from:
Fairview Press
2450 Riverside Avenue South
Minneapolis, MN 55454
(800) 544-8207
(612) 672-4180
(612) 672-4980 (Fax)
press@fairview.org (E-mail)
http://www.fairviewpress.org

Johnson J, Johnson M, Bock R, Dannen C, Hasslinger ML, et al.
Aborto Espontaneo: Un libro para los padres [Miscarriage: A book for parents].
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2003. 17 p.

This Spanish-language book provides support for parents who have experienced the death of a baby through miscarriage. The book discusses the feelings that commonly follow a miscarriage, such as sadness, anger, and guilt; encourages parents to ask their health care providers questions and to seek out support after the initial withdrawal period is over; provides suggestions to fathers for coping with their grief and that of their spouse; lists ways in which parents can memorialize their baby; gives suggestions for coping if one is a single mother; discusses ways in which parents can help older children cope with the death; provides parents with suggestions for relating to others after the miscarriage; tells mothers to address their fears of future pregnancies rather than let the fears overwhelm them; lists things that may cause parents to grieve so that they may cope with them better; reminds parents that connecting with the community of people who have had a similar experience will help them through their grief; and asks parents to use the miscarriage to become more sensitive to others in grief, to recognize new values and feelings about children and life, and to realize that they have endured grief and despair and survived it with dignity and self-respect. A glossary of special words is included.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Peterson J.
Heart works: A father’s grief.
Portland, OR: Heart-Works Publishing. 2003. 83 p.

Heart Works is a beautiful, full-color, with stunning photographs and writings of a father as he travels through the grief of his daughter’s death. This book is written by a father, speaks of his love for his daughter and the ways in which her death has changed him. This book is his therapy. He pairs his own photographs with meditations on grief-related words, taking time to explore his journey. Through his experiences, we learn what grief really is. He explores the paralyzing depths of grief, the awesome power of love and the light of hope from a man’s perspective. This is a book for all, not only the bereaved, because it allows one to consider their own lives, their loves, their disappointments and heartaches

Available from:
Heart-Works Publishing, LLC
930 SE Sandy Blvd.
Portland, OR 97214
(503) 236-1350
(503) 236-8555 (Fax)
jerre@negativeperfection.com (E-mail)
http://www.heart-works-publishing.com

Horchler JN, Rice R.
SIDS and infant death survival guide: Information and comfort for grieving family and friends and professionals who seek to help them. Third edition.
Cheverly, MD: SIDS Educational Services. 2003. 320 p.

This book, written by and for sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and infant death survivors, addresses the issues facing family members, friends, and helping professionals who must deal with the death of an infant from SIDS. Chapter 1 provides the definition of SIDS and presents basic information about who is at risk, incidence, possible causes, and whether or not SIDS is avoidable. This chapter also includes an experts perspective on SIDS and other infant deaths by Rachel Y. Moon, and a personal account and political history of SIDS by C. Griffin Sheehan. Chapter 2 describes feelings and experiences SIDS parents commonly have in the first few weeks and months of grief. This chapter also includes poetry by bereaved parents and personal accounts written by parents of SIDS infants that describe the circumstances surrounding their infants’ deaths and the aftermath. Chapter 3 contains writings that focus on anger and guilt, and chapter 4 presents poems and writings that ask God the questions “Why My Baby? Why Me?” Chapters 5 through 8 present personal accounts, writings, and poems that address grief from the point of view of fathers, siblings, grandparents, and child care providers of SIDS infants. Chapters 9 through 18 address the following topics: how to be a friend to SIDS parents and other survivors; planning the funeral and the role of the clergy; learning to live again; surviving anniversaries and holidays; the benefits of contact with other SIDS parents; the role of public health nurses and grief counselors; guidelines for emergency medical responders; interviews with a paramedic and two homicide detectives; an account of parents suspected of child abuse when twins died of SIDS; the role of the medical examiner in SIDS cases; subsequent children and the question of home monitoring; guilt and risk reduction; dreams and premonitions among SIDS parents; surviving and moving forward; and more stories, poems, and letters. A list of national and international organizations that provide counseling, research data, and grants on SIDS and related topics is appended.

Available from:
SIDS Educational Services
2905 64th Ave.
Cheverly, MD 20785
(877) 935-6839
(301) 322-2620
(301) 322-9822 (Fax)
SIDSES@aol.com (E-mail)
http://www.sidssurvivalguide.org

Keens TG.
SIDS: Based on a talk by Thomas G. Keens, M.D.
Rancho Cordova, CA: California SIDS Program. 2003. 8p.

This booklet is based on a talk given by Thomas Keens, MD, Professor of Pediatrics, Physiology and Biophysics, Division of Pediatric Pulmonology, Children’s Hospital Los Angeles, California, on February 24, 2000. Dr. Keens has been involved in the sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) community for over 20 years as an active member of SIDS advisory councils in California, a co-principal investigator of the Collaborative Home Intervention Monitoring Evaluation Study, the author of numerous articles on SIDS, an active guest lecturer throughout the world, and a recipient of the Senator Daniel E. Boatwright Award for extraordinary public service on behalf of Californians touched by SIDS. The booklet provides Dr. Keens’ answers to the following questions: What is SIDS?; How long have SIDS deaths been occurring?; What usually happens when a baby dies from SIDS?; Could there be more than one reason why babies die from SIDS?; What have researchers found out?; Is it true that some babies are at higher risk for SIDS than others?; Is SIDS a disease?; What are the most likely causes of SIDS?; Did I do anything to cause my baby to die from SIDS?; Will our next baby be in danger of SIDS?; How can I get through the grief that overwhelms me from losing my baby?; and How can I find the help I need?.

Throckmorton ML.
Not just another day: Families, grief and special days.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2003. 16 p.

The special days in the year are often the most difficult ones for bereaved families. This booklet provides suggestions to help families face birthdays, anniversaries, Hanukkah, and Christmas without a loved one. Although younger children tend to be comforted by family traditions, older children and adults may want to make a break with tradition on the holidays after a loved one has died. Families should feel free to start new traditions if they choose, or to combine some of the old with the new. Children may be especially anxious about approaching holidays. It is helpful for parents to know how children cope with grief and how these feelings may intensify around special days. The booklet suggests different ways in which parents can support their children as special days draw near, and stresses that both parents and children need to take extra good care of themselves during these times because grief often produces strong emotional and physical reactions. Ways in which families can keep healthy during grief-filled days are as follows: do relaxation exercises, eat healthful foods, exercise vigorously on a regular basis, and maintain household routines. The booklet includes descriptions of children’s grief patterns at ages 0 to 2, 3 to 5, 5 to 9, 9 to 12, and 12 to 18. Includes helpful resources.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Covington SN, Rich D. ed (s).
Silent birth...If your baby dies. Revised edition.
Minneapolis, MN: Fairview Press. 2003. 16 p.

This booklet was written by a clinical social worker to help prepare couples for the birth of an infant who has died. The booklet also is appropriate for couples who have experienced a miscarriage, an induced abortion due to a terminal birth defect, or a death shortly after birth. A resource list of books on pregnancy loss and bereavement is included.

Available from:
Fairview Press
2450 Riverside Avenue
Minneapolis, MN 55454
(800) 544-8207
(612) 672-4180
(612) 672-4980 (Fax)
press@fairview.org (E-mail)
http://www.fairview.org

Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Stillbirth, miscarriage and infant death—Understanding grief.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2003. 2p.

This pamphlet on miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant death is intended to prepare newly bereaved parents for the symptoms of grief, the possible impact of the loss on their marriage, and other potential consequences of the loss. The pamphlet discusses the normal symptoms of grief, the differences between mothers and fathers in their grief reactions, the potentially hurtful statements that may be made by well-meaning family members and friends, the issue of subsequent pregnancy, the needs of surviving siblings, the possible need for parents to re-examine their religious beliefs after an infant’s death, the temptation to turn to alcohol or drugs to ease the pain of grief, and positive things parents can do to remember their child and to ease their own isolation and loneliness.

Sanders DB.
When your baby dies...A gentle guide for teenage parents.
Rancho Cordova, CA: California SIDS Program. 2003. 18 p.

This booklet is written especially for teenage parents who have lost a baby to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). The booklet contains quotes from many other young parents of SIDS infants to let newly bereaved adolescent parents know that they are not alone. The quotes show how these young parents felt about the death and describe the kind of support they needed from other people. A list of things that family and friends can do for young bereaved parents is included.

Available from:
California SIDS program
11344 Coloma Road, Suite 560
Gold River, CA 95670-6304
916) 851-7437
(800) 369-7437 (Toll-free in California)
(916) 851-5937 (Fax)
info@californiasids.com (E-mail)
http://www.californiasids.com

The Compassionate Friends Inc.
El cuidado de los hijos supervivientes [Caring for surviving children...When a child dies]
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2002. 2 p.

This pamphlet offers guidelines to help parents who have lost a child to meet the needs of their surviving children. Parents are advised to do the following: be aware of the child’s level of understanding before explaining the death to him or her; explain the death truthfully, without using euphemisms; know that grief will exaggerate the positive and negative feelings that existed between the deceased and surviving siblings; by your role modeling, show your children that it is all right to cry, to be sad, or to be angry. Some common reactions of children to a sibling’s death and specific ways in which parents can help them are included.

The Compassionate Friends Inc.
Nacidos muertos, abortos naturales y muertes infantiles--- entendiendo la congoja [Stillbirth: miscarriage, and infant... Understanding grief].
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 2002. 2p.

Johnson J, Johnson M, Cunningham JA, Ewing S, Franciscony L. trans.
Ese Momentito [This little while: for parents experiencing the death of a very small infant].
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2002. 32 p.

This Spanish-language book is intended to help parents who have experienced the death of an infant before or shortly after birth say goodbye to their baby and cope with their grief. The book discusses things parents can do at the hospital that will bring them happy memories in the future: they can see, hold, bathe, and name the baby; photograph or film the baby; and take with them mementos of their baby’s life, including the blanket that the baby was wrapped in, clothes the baby wore, a lock of hair, the hospital bracelet, footprints and handprints, ultrasound pictures, and birth/death certificates. The funeral is the parents’ opportunity to bid a formal goodbye to their child, and that goodbye can be as individual as they wish. A number of the options that parents have in this regard are noted. The book also discusses the tears and the emotions that will accompany the loss, such as guilt, anger, and fear; the benefits of reaching out to other people; things that will surface to remind parents of the death; ways to remember the baby on his or her birthday and holidays; ways in which parents can nurture themselves and their relationship during mourning; what to do with the baby’s things; the grief of other children and how parents can support them; the reactions parents can expect from others; the grief of single parents; and what parents can do if they realize that their grief is still unresolved. A list of other Spanish-language materials on grief is included.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Cacciatore-Garard J.
Dear Cheyenne: A journey into grief, A collection of love, faith and miracles. A book for bereaved parents and for those who love them.
Peoria, AZ: MISS Foundation. 2002. 145 p.

This book chronicles the emotions of a mother whose infant girl, Cheyenne, was stillborn. The book consists of poetry and journal entries by the bereaved mother dating from the day the baby died to the day she would have turned 2 years old. During this time the mother became pregnant again. The book includes suggestions to parents for handling their grief, information on selecting a funeral home and planning the funeral and memorial service, recommended memorial songs, suggestions for commemorating the baby’s life, and a listing of national organizations that offer support to bereaved parents.

Available from:
MISS Foundation
PO Box 5333
Peoria, AZ 85385-5333
(623) 979-1000
(623) 979-1001 (Fax)
info@missfoundation.org (E-mail)
http://www.missfoundation.org

Johnson J, Johnson M, Ewing S.
Your next baby: For parents and families who have experienced a miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death and are now expecting a baby.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2002. 4 p.

This short pamphlet is primarily for parents and families who experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant death and are now expecting again. Anticipated emotions like anxiety, worry, feeling distant or close with the new baby are briefly stated, as are parental reactions after the delivery of a healthy baby.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Bereaved Parents of USA
Para Abuelos Desconsolados [For Bereaved Grandparents].
Park Forest, IL: Bereaved Parents of USA. 2002. 3 p.

Distributed by:
Bereaved Parents of the USA
PO Box 95
Park Forest, IL 60466
(630) 971-3490
(708) 748-9184 (Fax)
http://www.bereavedparentsusa.org

Lister M, Lovell S.
Healing together: For couples grieving the death of their baby.
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 2002. 16 p.

This pamphlet focuses on couples sharing the experience of the death and mourning of a child together. This compact book covers the memorial service to talking together, anticipated emotions for each sex are listed as well as strategies for sharing emotions together, and how to strengthen your relationship after the loss of your baby, talking to other children, and having next baby.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Reed, M.L.
Grandparents cry twice: Help for bereaved Grandparents.
Amityville, NY: Baywood Publishing Company, Inc. 2000.127 p.

The author shares her experiences when her beloved grandson, Alex died. She shares excerpts from condolence letters written by third grade classmates of Alex's older brother, Curtis and tells how those letters helped her grieving family. The first chapter describes the joy felt from Alex's birth, his life, and the agony of his illness and death at two-and a half years; the confusion and the struggle to continue functioning; and Redd's personal frustration with the lack of applicable information about grandparent's grief. The following chapters look at grief theories of various authorities and their relevancy for parents and grandparents. Information the author learned from experience, study and correspondence with other grandparents is used in the chapters on helping themselves, helping the grieving parents, and their surviving children. Other chapters make suggestions for memorials and personal rituals as well as how others may assist or hurt. The closing chapter is an overview of the author's journey through grief. Appendices include selected poems, a list of resources and a bibliography.

Distributed by:
Baywood Publishing Company, Inc.
26 Austin Ave.,
PO Box 337
Amityville, NY 11701
(800) 638-7819 (Toll-free)
(631) 691-1270
(631) 691-1770 (Fax)
http://baywood.com

National SIDS and Infant Death Program Support Center. Infant Mortality Risk Reduction Work Team
Safe sleep for my Grandbaby.
Rockville, MD: Health Resources and Services Administration (DHHS/PHS), Maternal and Child Health Bureau. June 2000. 4 p.

This brochure provides grandparents with information on reducing the risk of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) and creating a safe sleep environment for their infant grandchildren. The brochure answers the following questions: (1) how should my grandbaby be placed for sleep? (2) When my children were babies, the doctor said to place them on their stomachs for sleep. Stomach sleeping didn't harm my children. Why can't I place my grandbaby to sleep on his/her stomach? (3) If my grandbaby spits up while laying on his/her back, isn't he/she in danger of choking? (4) My grandbaby sleeps on a lambskin and I usually wrap him in several layers of blankets and clothing to make sure he's warm. Is this okay? (5) I don't have a crib at my house. Can't my grandbaby sleep in bed with me? (6) I wouldn't smoke while holding my grandbaby, but isn't it all right to smoke in another room while he is visiting? and (7) How else can I help make sure that my grandbaby stays healthy?

Available from:
National SIDS/Infant Death Program Support Center (NSIDPSC)
1314 Bedford Avenue, Suite 210
Baltimore, MD 21208
(800) 221-7437 (Toll-free)
(410) 415-6628
(410) 653-8709 (Fax)
kathleen.graham@firstcandle.org (E-mail)
http://www.firstcandle.org

Available full text: http://www.firstcandle.org

Jones EH
Bibliotherapy for bereaved children: Healing reading.
Philadelphia, PA: Jessica Kingsley. 2001. 144p.

This guide is for carers who are helping bereaved children to understand and work through their grief, the book shows how young people can heal themselves by reading fiction, a process termed bibliotherapy. The author demonstrates how a well-chosen book can offer a personal encounter with characters that appear to have experienced similar emotions and how books can be read again and again to provide extended therapy for the bereaved child. It provides comprehensive list of children’s fiction to help with the process of grief and healing and is an essential resource for all those living and working with bereaved children.

Available from:
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
400 Market St., Ste 400
Philadelphia, PA 19106
(215) 922-1161
(215) 922-1474 (Fax)
orders@jkp.com (E-mail)
http://www.jkp.com

Al-Chokhachy E.
The angel with the golden glow: A family’s journey through loss and healing.
Gloucester, MA: Works of Hope Publishing. 2001. 32 p.

This magical tale is based on the true story about a special little boy and his family. The little boy is born with a rare genetic neurological disorder. His family showers him love, not knowing how long he would survive. They celebrate his life and savor every moment they share together. This story offers hope and healing to parents, families and friends who have experienced the loss of a loved one.

Available from:
Works of Hope Publishing
25 Clark’s Road, #308
Amesbury, MA 01913
(877) 887-2828
(978) 233-7520 (Fax)
Elissa@WorksofHope.com (E-mail)
http://www.worksofhope.com

Wunnenberg KL.
Grieving the child I never knew: A devotional companion for comfort in the loss of your unborn or newly born child.
Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan Publishing House. 2001. 157 p.

Through this collection of 31 devotions, the author offers comfort, the reassurance of God’s presence, and strength for the journey through grief for parents who have lost a child through miscarriage, tubal pregnancy, stillbirth, or early infant death. The author herself took a personal journey through grief to healing after experiencing three miscarriages and the death of an infant son. Each devotion includes a passage from scripture, a prayer, “Steps Toward Healing” questions, and a space for journaling. A number of the readings are appropriate for holidays and special occasions. The book includes a list of books, magazines, and music for grieving parents as well as contact information for 21 support organizations.

Available from:
Zondervan Publishing House
5300 Patterson SE
Grand Rapids, MI 49530
http://www.zondervan.com/ (wholesaler only)
http://www.amazon.com/ (retailer)

North Carolina Healthy Start Foundation
When SIDS happens, there is help.
Raleigh, NC: North Carolina Healthy Start Foundation. 2001.2p.

This brochure, intended for the families of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) victims who live in North Carolina, explains what SIDS is, what we know about the causes of SIDS at this time, why this happened, what happens after a baby dies of SIDS, and where SIDS parents in North Carolina can turn for help. SIDS is the sudden and unexplained death of a baby under 1 year of age that cannot be explained after an autopsy, a death scene investigation, and a review of the baby’s health history. Not knowing “how” or “why” SIDS happens is frustrating for parents and caregivers; they often blame themselves for the death. County health departments have to report every SIDS death to the North Carolina SIDS Program, so families can expect a SIDS counselor to visit their home soon afterward to learn more about what happened and to provide them with grief support and counseling. The counselor’s services are free of charge and may include providing support, answering questions, listening and offering a helping hand, collecting information about the baby’s health history and death, following up with the medical examiner’s office, helping parents understand the autopsy report, and linking family members or caregivers with others who can provide grief support. The brochure provides contact information for the North Carolina SIDS Program, the SIDS Alliance of the Carolinas hotline, the National SIDS Alliance, the North Carolina Back to Sleep Campaign for SIDS Risk Reduction, the North Carolina Family Health Resource Line, and the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Available from:
North Carolina Healthy Start Foundation
NC Back to Sleep Campaign
1300 St. Mary’s Street, Suite 204
Raleigh, NC 27605
(919) 828-1819
(800) 367-2229 (NC Family Health Resource Line)
(919) 828-1446 (Fax)
http://www.NcHealthystart.org

Donnelly KF.
Recovering from the loss of a child.
Lincoln, NE: iUniverse Inc. 2001. 304 p.

This book is meant as a resource for bereaved parents, surviving siblings, relatives, friends, and people working in the helping professions. It is divided into two sections: Part I contain personal accounts of grief by parents and siblings of children who have died, and Part II describes the rapidly growing network of self-help associations that provide family support. Chapter 1 presents the beginning stories of numerous couples and siblings who experienced a child or adolescent death. Chapters 2 and 3 recount the grief of the parents and family members in the days and months after the deaths. Chapter 4 looks at the special grief that ensues when a baby dies. Chapter 5 examines the toll that a child’s death can take on the marital relationship. Chapter 6 discusses the unique grief of fathers, and chapter 7 describes the reactions of friends and co-workers to the deaths. This chapter concludes with a list of do’s and don’ts for friends who want to help bereaved parents. Chapter 9 looks at the grief of the bereaved parents chronicled in this book months and years after their child’s death, and describes what they did to help themselves work through their grief. Chapter 10 contains lengthy descriptions of 12 organizations that help bereaved families, including three organizations concerned with the problem of sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). Chapter 11 is a directory of information on and chapter locations for self-help organizations like The Compassionate Friends, Parents of Murdered Children, SHARE, and state SIDS Information and Counseling Programs. The directory also includes a listing of marriage and family counseling professionals and Mental Health Associations by state. The book concludes with an elegy for Philippe-Maguilen, written by his father, the Former President of Senegal, and a suggested reading list.

Available from:
iUniverse, Inc.
5220 South 16th Street, Suite 200
Lincoln, NE 68512-1274
(877) 823-9235 (Customer service)
http://www.iuniverse.com

Schaefer D, Lyons C.
How do we tell the children? A step-by step guide for helping children two to teen cope when someone dies.
New York, NY: Newmarket Press. December 2001. 208 p.

This guide for helping children and adolescents cope with death is based on the author’s 25 years of experience as a funeral director and on his consultations with child psychologists, family therapists, educators, and clergy. The guide is written primarily for parents, but it also can be used by counselors, educators, funeral directors, and other professionals who deal with grieving children. Chapter 1 focuses on what children think about death at the ages of 2 to 6 years, 6 to 9 years, 9 to 12 years, and as teenagers. Chapter 2 gives suggestions for explaining death to children when it involves the death of a grandparent, an immediate family member, an infant (including a sudden infant death syndrome death), or a classmate. This chapter also provides suggestions for explaining to children deaths due to accidents, murder, suicide, and AIDS. Chapter 3 deals with grief and healing, including common reactions to grief in children, the three stages of grief most children go through, problems that caregivers should be prepared for at various ages, helping children and adolescents with guilt and anger, and helping one’s child heal from grief. Chapter 4 focuses on the funeral, specifically, telling children what to expect, special gestures they can make, and questions they may ask. Chapter 5 explains how to talk to children about someone who is dying, including someone dying from AIDS; how to explain death to children who are mentally retarded; and how to explain the death of a pet. A final section serves as a quick reference to the information given in more detail throughout the book. An annotated bibliography includes references to books on death for adults and children and the names and addresses of numerous support organizations. The third edition of this book also includes information on violence in schools and helping grandparents cope as caregivers.

Available from:
Newmarket Press
18 East 48th Street, 15th Floor
New York, NY 10017
(212) 832-3575
(800) 669-3903
(212) 832-3629 (Fax)
mailbox@newmarketpress.com (E-mail)
http://www.newmarketpress.com

Parrott C.
Parents grief: Help and understanding after the death of a baby.
Issaquah, WA: Medic Publishing Company. 2001. 26 p.

This booklet offers suggestions to parents to help them cope with the death of a baby, whether by miscarriage, stillbirth, or death in infancy. Parents should know that three things are inevitable: they will grieve, they will experience many different emotions, and they will need support. Suggestions are provided for dealing with the initial news of the death or impending death, creating memories of the baby, coping during the days immediately following the death, dealing constructively with grief, accepting the differences in the grieving of a spouse, helping other family members cope with their grief, understanding that other people may not know what to say and do, finding comfort through religion, and surviving special days. The booklet also presents explanations of the four stages of grief (shock and numbness, searching and yearning, disorganization, and reorganization), explores some of the issues surrounding a subsequent pregnancy, and gives advice to family and friends who really want to help. The personal accounts of grieving parents are interspersed throughout the booklet.

Available from:
Medic Publishing Company
P.O. Box 943
Issaquah, WA 98027
(425) 222-0844
(425) 222-0845 (Fax)

Hurcombe L.
Losing a child: Explorations in grief.
London, UK: Sheldon Press, 2000. 179p.

This book gives an understanding of how grieving for a child affects every member of the family, and the relationships between the surviving members. Explains the different types of support available and how they can be accessed. A special chapter deals with sudden or violent death: murder, accidents and suicide. The main focus is on losing children aged 0-18. Includes helpful contacts, references, reading list and index.

Available from:
Sheldon Press
1 Marylebone Road
London, NW1 4DU
United Kingdom
(020) 764-3038
(020) 764-3039 (Fax)
sheldon@spck.org.uk (E-mail)
http://www.sheldonpress.com

Noel B, Blair PD.
I wasn't ready to say goodbye: Surviving, coping and healing after the sudden death of a loved one.
Fredonia, WI: Champion Press, 2000, 279p.

This book is for those dealing with the loss of a loved one, or for those who want to help someone. Author takes through the grieving process as well as learning how to deal with tragic loss. The first part of the book deals with issues from how to survive the first few weeks to understanding the emotional and physical aspects of grief to dispelling myths about the grieving process. The second part is mainly the sharing of the stories of various people who have experienced the sudden loss of a loved one. The stories include the loss of a friend, a parent, a child, a partner, and a sibling. This section examines the various related problems that sometimes exist as a result of a loss. For example, losing a partner but having surviving children, dealing with a suicide, and the difficulties of couples surviving the loss of a child are all discussed. The third section discusses some of the pathways that people take through grief. Of particular importance is that it clearly dispels the myth that we all have a particular pathway that we use to move on past a loss. Each one of us is different and we all have our ways of dealing with grief. What may take one person six months to recover from may take another ten years, some may cry, some may not, some may experience forgetfulness, some may not, we are all different. This section includes a chapter exclusively devoted to book resources. The book finishes with a listing of support and resource contacts.

Available from:
Champion Press Ltd.
4308 Blueberry Road
Fredonia, WI 53021
(877) 250-3354
(262) 692-3897
(262) 692-3342 (Fax)
info@championpress.com (E-mail)
http://www.championpress.com

Summers C. Ed.
An angel is born: A story of love, loss and hope.
Woodside, CA: Blue star Communications. 2000. 72 p.

This exquisitely written and illustrated book is for assisting parents who are grieving the loss of a child, for caretakers who look after a dying patient, and for readers who are interested in angels and the life beyond our limited earthly experience. It is a moving account taken from the author’s work as a nurse. It is a poignant reminder that a child’s death has the capacity to touch the hearts and change the lives of everyone involved. It provides invitation to glimpse death from an angel’s point of view, seeing it as a door into the boundless continuation of life. Appendix includes resource list of support groups, associations, newsletters, recommended reading list and quote references.

Available from:
Blue star Communications
44 Bear Glenn
Woodside, CA 94062
(800) 625-8378
http://www.bluestar.com

Kluger-Bell, K.
Unspeakable losses: Healing from miscarriage, abortion, and other pregnancy loss.
New York, NY: Quill/A Division of HarperCollins Publishers. 2000. 171 p.

This book was written by a psychotherapist who suffered through two pregnancy losses. At the time she lost her infants there were no books on the market addressing the issue of pregnancy loss, abortion, or infertility, so the author spent a year interviewing people who had experienced pregnancy losses of all kinds and, combined with her own experiences, wrote this book. She also spoke with doctors, nurses, counselors, and therapists who treat patients affected by these reproductive crises. The book is intended to help anyone who has suffered a pregnancy loss as well as family members, friends, nurses, doctors, and psychotherapists in learning how to accompany someone on this difficult journey. Chapter 1 presents the silent suffering experienced by men and women who have gone through a pregnancy loss or elective abortion. Chapter 2 focuses on the pain of miscarriage, and chapter 3 examines losses later in pregnancy. Chapter 4 discusses three cases of abortion. The first case concerns a long-delayed emotional reaction to an early elective abortion, the second relates to a second-trimester abortion due to a genetic abnormality in the fetus, and the third is the case of selective reduction in a multiple pregnancy. Chapter 5 looks at men’s experience of pregnancy loss and abortion. The final chapter addresses what it is like to live with the loss over time. Appendix A reviews the emotions and experiences that appear to be shared by those coping with a reproductive crisis. Appendix B gives advice to family and friends who want to support grieving parents. Appendix C contains special advice for mental health and medical professionals who come in contact with patients who have suffered a pregnancy loss. A listing of support organizations, recommended readings, and Internet resources completes the book.

Available from:
Quill/A Division of HarperCollins Publishers
10 East 53rd Street
New York, NY 10022
(212) 207-7000
http://www.harpercollins.com

Douglas A, Sussman JR.
Trying again: A guide to pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss.
Lanham, MD: Taylor Trade Publishing/Rowman and Littlefield Publishing Group. 2000. 321 p.

This book is intended to give women and their partners the information and reassurance they need to withstand the physical and emotional difficulties of a high-risk subsequent pregnancy. The book focuses on the kinds of issues that are of primary concern to couples who are embarking on pregnancy after miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death. The following topics are covered: risk factors for and causes of ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, and stillbirth; tests that can determine the causes of miscarriage, recurrent miscarriage, and stillbirth; the 10 leading causes of infant death; emotional and physical factors involved in a couple’s decision to attempt another pregnancy; preparing for another pregnancy, including having a preconception health checkup; how one’s reproductive history will affect the next pregnancy; determining whether a couple is a good candidate for genetic counseling; what couples can do to increase their odds of conceiving quickly; how couples can tell if they have a fertility problem; the challenges of coping with infertility after pregnancy loss or infant death; the emotions a couple may experience when the pregnancy test comes back positive; components of a healthy lifestyle and what pregnant women can do to ensure the healthiest possible baby; the pros and cons of prenatal testing; coping with the unique physical and emotional challenges of a high-risk pregnancy; chronic conditions in the mother that can put the pregnancy at risk; problems that can occur during a multiple pregnancy; preparing for the birth by taking prenatal classes, writing a birth plan, and hiring a doula; pain relief options during labor; the signs of labor and the three stages of labor; what to expect during a cesarean delivery; and how to survive the emotional highs and lows that can occur after birth. The more than 100 parents who were interviewed for this book answered a series of questionnaires that focused on every aspect of pregnancy after a loss: how they decided it was time to start trying to conceive again, how they maintained their sanity when they didn’t conceive as quickly as they wanted, whether they stayed with the same physician or midwife they had worked with in the past, whether they went through prenatal testing, how they coped with their fear that something also would happen to this baby, and what they did to prepare themselves for the upcoming birth. Appendixes contain a table of infant deaths and infant mortality rates for the year 1997, a directory of relevant organizations in the United States and Canada, and a directory of Internet resources.

Available from:
Taylor Trade Publishing/Rowman and Littlefield Publishing Group
4720 Boston Way
Lanham, MD 20706
(301) 459-3366
(800) 462-6420 (orders and customer service)
(800) 338-4550 (Fax)
http://www.rlpgbooks.com

Kelly L.
Don’t ask for the dead man’s golf clubs: What to do and say (and what not to) when a friend loses a loved one.
New York, NY: Workman Publishing. 2000. 157 p.

This book offers suggestions to family and friends of the bereaved who want to say and do things that will comfort them. The author draws on her own experience of being widowed at a young age and combines it with the words of survivors who have lost mothers, fathers, children, husbands, siblings, and grandparents. The book is divided into five sections. Section 1, What to Do Now, advises caregivers to spend time with the bereaved person, go to the funeral service, say something honest and simple, share their sorrow with the children involved, respect the bereaved person’s privacy, send a letter or note expressing their sorrow, help with daily chores, bring food, and respect the bereaved person’s cultural traditions. Section 2, What to Do Over Time, suggests that friends listen, reminisce with their friend about the deceased, learn about the grieving process so that they know what emotions and behaviors to expect from their friend, check in with their friend regularly, spend time with their friend on holidays, offer to help with the children, and keep giving hugs. Section 3, What Not to Do, advises friends not to be judgmental, not to push their friend to go to the same places and do the same things he or she did before, and to stick by their friend even when things get difficult. Section 4, What to Do at Work, emphasizes the importance of notifying the bereaved person’s co-workers about the loss, and for co-workers to acknowledge the loss, be sensitive to the bereaved, and offer to ease the bereaved person’s workload. Section 5 offers suggestions for friends when the death is a suicide, stillbirth, or miscarriage. In these situations, friends should not be afraid to express their condolences, they should let the grieving person take the initiative in telling them what happened, and they should withhold judgment.

Available from:
Workman Publishing Company
708 Broadway
New York, NY 10003-9555
(212) 254-5900
(212) 254-8098 (Fax)
http://www.workman.com

Fumia M.
A piece of my heart: Living through the grief of miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant death.
Berkeley, CA: Conari Press. 2000. 130 p.

The author shares with readers her experience of losing her week-old son to a congenital heart condition called hypo plastic left heart syndrome. At the time of Jeremy’s birth, in November 1972, health professionals believed that the best thing for parents who had lost a baby was to minimize the developing bond between parent and child. This belief was based on early work in psychology that hypothesized that “grief was resolved when surviving loved ones ‘forgot’ the one who had died, breaking the attachment.” When Molly and her husband, Charles, receive the news that their baby’s condition is terminal, the doctor also tells them that there is no point in seeing the baby, since there is nothing they can do for him. He tells them that, if Molly were his wife, he wouldn’t allow her to come to the hospital. Charles visits Jeremy in the hospital along with his father and sister, but Molly doesn’t go, a decision that she heartily regrets years later. A week after his birth, Jeremy dies. Molly later realizes that Jeremy should have been in her arms when he died. The only time she had with him was briefly after he was born. She has advice for other bereaved parents based on her own experience: honor your grief process; you have the right to feel, mourn, and be healed; you and your child have a real, undeniable bond; remember the past; and there are others who know how you feel. The author became friends with Elie Wiesel during her journey through mourning and has interspersed quotations from 10 of his books throughout this book. The book concludes with a list of national support groups, books, catalogs, and online resources. 11 references.

Available from:
Conari Press
2550 Ninth Street, Suite 101
Berkeley, CA 94710
(800) 685-9595
(510) 649-7190 (Fax)
http://www.conari.com

Canadian Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome: When babies leave the circle.
Calgary, Canada: University of Calgary, Advanced Media for Learning. 2000.

This videotape looks at the grieving process and provides support to parents who have lost an infant to sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) within the context of traditional First Nations teachings. The video is aimed at Aboriginal Canadians, who have a particularly high rate of SIDS deaths. Traditional teachings say that a child chooses its parents because of what they can offer him or her. When a baby dies suddenly and unexpectedly, traditional teachings may help First Nations families cope with their loss. The First National believes that grief is a necessary process. The teachings encourage grieving parents to talk about their feelings with Elders, family, and friends. This video is narrated by Aboriginal Canadian actor Graham Greene.

Available from:
Canadian Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths
586 Eglinton Avenue East, Suite 308
Toronto, Canada M4P 1P2, Canada
(416) 488-3260
(800) 363-7437 (Toll-free)
(416) 488-3864 (Fax)
http://www.sidscanada.org

Kohn I, Moffit PL, Wilkins IA
A silent sorrow: Pregnancy loss. Guidance and support for you and your family.
New York, NY: Routledge. January 2000. 317 p.

This book is intended as a guide for parents who have endured one of the most unrecognized sorrows in life: the loss of an unborn or newborn baby. Section I, The Grief of Pregnancy Loss, contains chapters 1-4: When an Unborn or Newborn Baby Dies; The Mother’s Experience; The Father’s Experience; and Pregnancy Loss and Your Relationship: Grieving Together and Apart. Section II, Pregnancy Loss Examined, contains chapters 5-8: Early Losses (e.g., miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy); Crisis Pregnancies and Loss, including preterm labor, premature rupture of the membranes, and cervical incompetence; Stillbirth and Newborn Death; and Prenatal Diagnosis and the Burden of Choice. Section III, The Response of Others, contains chapters 9-13: Medical Care When You Lose Your Pregnancy, Finding Solace in Your Religion, The Response of Your Family and Friends, Helping Your Children at Home, and For Bereaved Grandparents. Section IV, Special Circumstances, contains chapters 14-16: The Impact of Pregnancy Loss on Your Career; Pregnancy Loss and Infertility: A Twofold Loss; and Becoming Pregnant Again. The book contains four appendices. Appendix A describes specific kinds of problems that can develop during pregnancy and their usual treatment, including genetic and chromosomal problems, Rh-incompatibility disease, hormonal problems, uterine problems, immunological problems, preterm labor, cervical incompetence, and maternal illness. This appendix also includes a brief discussion of prenatal diagnostic tests and procedures for ending an impaired pregnancy. Appendix B contains 14 pages of personal farewell rituals for parents and relatives of infants. This appendix includes information on choosing a place for the service, including grandparents in the ritual, and creating a memory book. The appendix also includes a suggested format for a ceremony; specific suggestions for religious readings, music (classical, popular, spiritual), blessings, naming rituals, responsive readings, and prayers; and a reading for a miscarried baby, rituals for pregnancy loss, an anniversary ritual, a ritual for a subsequent pregnancy, and rituals for ending a pregnancy. Appendix C provides information on toxic substances and environmental hazards that affect pregnancy, among them exposures with known risks (e.g., alcohol, lead, smoking); exposures suspected of risks, including caffeine, cocaine, glycol-ethers, mercury, and power plants; and exposures whose risks are unknown, such as the electromagnetic radiation emitted by electrical appliances, video display terminals, radio towers, and high-tension wires. Appendix D presents an extended list of organizations that provide bereavement support, publications for grieving families, workshops, internet chat rooms, and support networks. This appendix also includes organizations that can offer referrals to psychotherapists and provide information on genetics, pregnancy termination, infertility, childbirth, adoption, and a healthy pregnancy. A glossary and an extensive bibliography complete the book.

Available from:
Routledge/A Member of the Taylor and Francis Group
Books Customer Services for North America
7625 Empire Drive
Florence, KY 41042
(800) 634-7064
(800) 248-4724 (Fax)
http://www.routledge-ny.com

Galinsky N.
When a Grandchild Dies: What to do, What to Say, How to Cope.
Houston, TX: Gal In Sky Publishing Company. 1999. 130 p.

The book is based on experiences shared by grieving grandparents as well as author’s own personal experience as a bereaved mother. Part I discusses what feelings may be experienced at the beginning and how to recognize when grieving becomes unhealthy. Part II assists the grandparents communicate with their bereaved children and other living grandchildren, spouses, in-laws, and friends. Part III offers ways to cope from relaxation techniques, how to ask for help when help is needed. Also includes epilogue, bibliography, recommended resources, Internet resources, contact address to bereavement organization and index.

Available from:
Gal In Sky Publishing Company
PO Box 70976
Houston, TX 77270
(713) 880-8089
(713) 864-6689 (Fax)

Smith SC.
The forgotten mourners: Guidelines for working with bereaved children.
Philadelphia, PA: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 1999.112p.

This revised edition expands on the original book by Sister Margaret Pennells and Susan Smith. It raises awareness of the sensitive issues involved for bereaved children, highlighting their needs and their emotional and behavioral resources when bereavement occurs. Children's reactions to bereavement and their behaviors are described in detail and the consequences of failing to acknowledge children's grief and ways to tackle the subject of death is outlined. Includes references, list of resources like books for teenagers, professionals, videos, list of organization addresses and subject index.

Available from:
Jessica Kingsley Publishers
400 Market St., Ste 400
Philadelphia, PA 19106
(215) 922-1161
(215) 922-1474 (Fax)
orders@jkp.com (E-mail)
http://www.jkp.com

California Department of Health Services, Maternal and Child Health Bureau
Hechos y sentimientos: Sindrome de muerte infantil repentina [Facts and feelings: Sudden Infant Death Syndrome].
Berkeley, CA: California SIDS Program. 1999. 14 p.

This Spanish-language booklet is designed especially for families and caregivers who have experienced a sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS) loss. The booklet provides information on what happens in a SIDS death; what causes SIDS; whether anyone is at fault in a SIDS death; whether the baby suffered; whether the baby vomited, choked, or suffocated; whether SIDS is contagious; whether older children can die of SIDS; whether SIDS is caused by DTP shots or child abuse; whether breast feeding helps to prevent SIDS; whether SIDS is hereditary; the feelings experienced by bereaved parents, which are often very different; the effects of the death on surviving siblings; and where families can go to get help and support. The booklet reminds childcare providers who have experienced a SIDS death that they, too, should seek out help and support. Contact information for the California SIDS Program and two national support groups is provided.

Ilse S, Appelbaum A ed, Pinzon de Perez H. trans., Perez MA, trans.
Brazos Vacios: Sobrellevando el Aborto Espontaneo, el Nacimiento de un Bebe Muerto y la Muerte Infantil [Empty Arms: Coping with Miscarriage, Stillbirth and Infant Death].
Maple Plain, MN: Wintergreen Press. 1999. 103 p.

This book, written for Spanish-speaking parents who have experienced the loss of a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, neonatal death, sudden infant death syndrome, pregnancy termination, or adoption after birth, provides them with basic information on these kinds of loss and discusses the decisions that will face them in the days, weeks, and months afterward. Suggestions for coping with these grief reactions and issues are provided. The book concludes with a list of ways in which family and friends can help the bereaved couple. The author provides personal recollections of her miscarriage, stillbirth, and ectopic pregnancy. A list of support organizations is included for parents who have experienced fetal, infant, or child death; infertility; an infant or child with a genetic disorder; adoption; or pregnancy termination. In addition, organizations are listed under the categories childbirth, maternal and child health, and mental health. A bibliography contains bereavement materials for parents and children who have experienced the loss of a child or sibling.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Massachusetts Center for SIDS
When a baby dies.
Boston, MA: Massachusetts Center for SIDS. 1998. 12 p.

This mini-booklet was developed by the Massachusetts SIDS Center to provide comfort to parents whose baby has died. Babies can die for many reasons, including miscarriage, stillbirth, premature birth, sudden or unexplained illness, infections, congenital or inherited problems, injuries, and sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS). It is normal for parents to feel numb, lost, confused, empty, and helpless when they lose a baby. Some common expressions of grief include crying, having trouble sleeping at night, asking oneself “why did this happen to me?”, being unable to make even simple decisions, being unable to put the baby’s things away, blaming oneself for the death, and questioning one’s spiritual beliefs. People experience grief in different ways, so mothers and fathers should not be upset if their grief reactions are different from one another. The reactions of children who knew the baby, especially siblings, will differ depending on the age of the child, how the death was explained to him or her, and how parents and caretakers respond to the death. Children often become fearful that they or someone they love may die, too. They may feel angry at the baby for dying, or guilty because of what they said or did before the baby died. Some children will not understand that the baby is not coming back and will not show any emotion at all. Parents can help their surviving children grieve by allowing them to talk about the death as often as they like; showing physical and emotional support for them; maintaining normal routine; telling them the truth about the death; and encouraging them to remember the baby by saving a box of mementos, keeping a diary, or drawing pictures of him or her. Parents who wish to talk to a professional about the death should call the Massachusetts SIDS Center.

Available from:
Massachusetts Center for SIDS
Boston Medical Center
1 Boston Medical Center Place
Boston, MA 02118-2393
(617) 414-7437
(800) 641-7437 (in MA and RI)
(617) 414-5555 (Fax)
mary.mcclain@bmc.org (E-mail)
http://www.bmc.org/pediatrics/special/SIDS/

Toerpe G, Wright L, Powers E.
Grandparents Grieve Twice.
Colorado Springs, CO: Bereavement Publishing, Inc. 1996. 4p.

This booklet provides insights into the grief experienced by grandparents who lose a grandchild. The first section of the book is written by a woman who was so touched by a grieving grandparent that she interviewed a number of older men and women who had lost a grandchild to document their feelings. Following the comments of these grandparents are three poems written by two grandmothers as expressions of their grief.

Available from:
Bereavement Publishing, Inc.
4765 N. Carefree Circle
Colorado Springs, CO 80917
(888) 604-4673 (Toll-free)
(719) 266-0006
(719) 266-0012 (Fax)
http://www.bereavementmag.com

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Bereavement Services/Gundersen Lutheran Medical Foundation
It means so much to know that someone cares.
La Crosse, WI: Bereavement Services. 1996. 34 p.

This book was written for parents who have lost a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. The book was written with the aid of parents who have lost a baby in the hope that their words would help the newly bereaved through the grieving process. The book emphasizes that every individual experiences grief differently, and that all grief-related emotions are normal. The following topics are covered: mourning as nature’s way of healing a broken heart; the four basic phases of mourning and the stories of parents who have gone back and forth among them; the uniqueness of each parent’s reactions to grief, and the importance of each parent accepting the other’s style of grieving; reactions that parents can expect from relatives and friends; explaining the death to surviving children; saying good-bye to the baby by giving him or her a name, creating a memory book, or holding a funeral or memorial service; the effects of the death on the sexual aspects of the marital relationship; and considering another pregnancy.

Available from:
Bereavement Services/Gundersen Lutheran Medical Foundation
1910 South Avenue
La Crosse, WI 54601
(608) 791-4747
(800) 362-9567, ext. 4747
(608) 791-5137 (Fax)
info@bereavementservices.org (E-mail)
http://www.bereavementprograms.com

Bereavement Services/ Gundersen Lutheran Medical Foundation
Nos consuela tanto el saber que alguien se preocupa por nosotros [It Means so Much to Know That Someone Cares].
La Crosse, WI: Bereavement Services. 1997. 34 p.

This Spanish-language book was written for parents who have lost a baby through miscarriage, stillbirth, or newborn death. The book was written with the aid of parents who have lost a baby in the hope that their words would help the newly bereaved through the grieving process. The book emphasizes that every individual experiences grief differently, and that all grief-related emotions are normal. The following topics are covered: mourning as nature’s way of healing a broken heart; the four basic phases of mourning and the stories of parents who have gone back and forth among them; the uniqueness of each parent’s reactions to grief, and the importance of each parent accepting the other’s style of grieving; reactions that parents can expect from relatives and friends; explaining the death to surviving children; saying good-bye to the baby by giving him or her a name, creating a memory book, or holding a funeral or memorial service; the effects of the death on the sexual aspects of the marital relationship; and considering another pregnancy.

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Understanding Grief...When a Grandchild Dies.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 1995. 2 p.

This pamphlet focuses on the special grief that grandparents experience when a grandchild dies. The grandparents grieve not only for their grandchild, but also share in the grief of the bereaved parents. Grandmothers and grandfathers may grieve differently, which could cause stress in their relationship. During the grief process, grandparents may feel many emotions, including denial, anger, guilt, and depression. Healing from grief takes a long time; bereaved grandparents will find that doing their "grief work" will help to put them on the path to grief resolution and reorganization.

Available from:
The Compassionate Friends
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
(630) 990-0010
(630) 990-0246 (Fax)
nationaloffice@compassionatefriends.com (E-mail)
http://www.compassionatefriends.org

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Dolor y comprension [Grief and Understanding].
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 1995. 2 p.

This Spanish-language pamphlet is intended to help bereaved parents through the grief process. The pamphlet discusses the emotional and physical reactions that parents may experience following the death; how friends and relatives may react to their grief; the needs of other surviving children during this time; how the death may make parents question their beliefs; and ways in which the parents can deal with their grief positively, such as eating a well-balanced diet and getting moderate exercise, avoiding the use of drugs or alcohol to cope, taking time to decide what to do with the child’s belongings, postponing major decisions for at least a year, considering the feelings of the whole family when planning how to spend holidays or the birthday/death anniversary of the child who died, and seeking support from other bereaved parents.

Available from:
The Compassionate Friends
P.O. Box 3696
Oak Brook, IL 60522-3696
(630) 990-0010
(630) 990-0246 (Fax)
nationaloffice@compassionatefriends.org (E-mail)
http://www.compassionatefriends.org

lse S, Leininger L.
Grieving Grandparents: Following Miscarriage, Stillbirth, SIDS or Infant Death.
Maple Plain, MN: Wintergreen Press, Inc. 1994. 13 p.

This booklet offers suggestions to help grandparents cope with their own grief after the death of a grandchild through miscarriage, stillbirth, sudden infant death syndrome (SIDS), or early infant death. The suggestions include ways in which grandparents can help their bereaved children, the parents of the infant; ways to help them communicate their feelings, deal with guilt, and create memories; and ways to help them cope with holidays and special days after the loss. A list of resources is included.

Available from:
A Place to Remember
deRuyter-Nelson Publications, Inc.
1885 University Avenue, Suite 110
Saint Paul, MN 55104
(612) 645-7045
(800) 631-0973 (Toll-free)
(612) 645-4780 (Fax)
aptr@aplacetoremember.com (E-mail)
http://www.aplacetoremember.com

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
Caring for Surviving Children...When a Child Dies.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 1992. 2p.

This pamphlet offers guidelines to help parents who have lost a child meet the needs of their surviving children. Parents are advised to do the following: be aware of the child’s level of understanding before explaining the death to him or her; explain the death truthfully, without using euphemisms; know that grief will exaggerate the positive and negative feelings that existed between the deceased and surviving siblings; by your role modeling, show your children that it is all right to cry, to be sad, or to be angry. Some common reactions of children to a sibling’s death and specific ways in which parents can help them are included.

The Compassionate Friends, Inc.
The Grief of Stepparents...When a Child Dies.
Oak Brook, IL: The Compassionate Friends. 1992. 2p.

This pamphlet focuses on the grief of stepparents when a stepchild dies. The following topics are covered: typical reactions following the death of a child, how circumstances surrounding the death can influence grief, the exclusion that a stepparent may feel because he or she is not the biological parent, the possible resurfacing of unresolved feelings between the biological parents, the strain that the death may put on the marriage, and thoughts that a stepparent may want to convey to his or her spouse.

Morgan T, Cunningham J, Goldstein R, Katz E, Molinero L. trans.
Los padres tambien sufren: Para padres y familias que han sufrido la muerte de un nino [Fathers Grieve: Too: For Fathers and Families Who Have Experienced the Death of a Child].
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 1985. 3 p.

This Spanish-language brochure focuses on the emotional reactions of fathers who have experienced the death of a child, giving special attention to the effect of the loss on the bereaved father’s marriage and job. The brochure also discusses men’s grief and its relation to anger, talking, and crying.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

Johnson J, Johnson SM, Serlet M, Siert J, Taubert S.
Accompagner les parents apres la mort de leur enfant ou de leur bebe: Pour les amis et la famille de parents en deuil [Being With Parents After Their Child or Baby Dies].
Omaha, NE: Centering Corporation. 1984. 3 p.

This French-language brochure suggests ways in which friends and relatives can provide support to parents who experience the loss of an infant. Suggestions include calling the baby by name and encouraging the parents to share their feelings and memories by talking about their child. Suggestions for dealing with the grief of siblings are included.

Available from:
Centering Corporation
PO Box 4600
Omaha, NE 68104
(402) 553-1200
(402) 553-0507 (Fax)
centering@centering.org (E-mail)
http://www.centering.org

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Bereavement Resources for Parents, Families and Friends: A Selected Annotated Bibliography

Bereavement Resources for Parents, Families and Friends:
A Selected Annotated Bibliography